I’ve run into a very interesting blog site associated with the New York Times. “The New Old Age: Caring and Coping” (click here). Frankly, it looks like the kind of conversation I’m hoping people will eventually have on sunshiners.ca! Meanwhile, I think it’s a good resource.
UPDATE July 9, 2011: Paula Span, frequent contributor to “The New Old Age” posted a wonderful blog June 29 here. Paula is an author and journalist teacher at Columbia University, who as it happens attended my recent presentation in New York City.
The June 29 blog involves a no-win situation that comes up often for relatives of frail elderly people: what are the limits of advocacy? So much of this has to do with your personality, and that of the people you’re dealing with: facility staff, nurses, doctors, etc. There is a danger that a completely legitimate and reasonable sense of responsibility (fueled at times by some strident stuff in the media) will blow you off your accustomed smooth, charming, and reasonable way of dealing with the world just to get the very best for your loved one.
Like so very many other things in life, you really need your best human instincts fully deployed when you wade into advocacy. Good luck.